Proverbs 31 Woman

Proverbs 31:10-12

My heart has been heavy lately. Just over life in general.
I have been too busy doing other things for other people which has left me with little time... or energy... for my own family. Uggggh!

When I die I want to leave behind a legacy; I desire to have people share that I strived to live a good life and be cross-referenced to a Proverbs 31 Woman. I am not perfect; far from it actually, but the intent of my heart is pure. It seems in today's fast-paced world it's easy to think of yourself first, your kids next... and your helpmate last. {{And we wonder why we have so many divorces?}}

I don't know of a better way to be encouraged in God's Word of how he wants us as women to live than bylooking at
Proverbs 31:10 - 31.In no way am I a Bible Scholar, but I wanted to break down a few verses a day to focus on.

It's hard to find a good, noble, competent and virtuous wife.Proverbs 31:10a - CaSandra Winter Version

I know too many lonely people that sit around and complain that they are tired of being single, how they have searched everywhere... and all the good ones are taken... but exactly where are they looking? Truth: Dating is hard especially once you graduate college and live in a small town, but... where are you searching? Are you looking for a virtuous person at the grocery store, the gym, your work, a local club? As the phrase goes, "If you lie with dogs, you will get fleas." Or how about this one - my parents loved using this during my teen years, "Reputation by association." It's true (as much as I would have never admitted it 15 years ago) you need to put yourself in a position where you can meet the right type of person. "A right time to search and another to count your losses, A right time to hold on and another to let go. " (Ecclesiastes 3:2-8)
She is more valuable than pearls, rubies or diamonds; she's priceless!Proverbs 31:10b CaSandra Winter Version
In our material- driven world, everything seems to come with a price tag. A new pair of jeans will set you back $50. The latest electronic gadget costs $500. A shiny, fast car costs $50,000, a spacious house can run you $500,000. Do you get it? It's all about money. But you as a wife should be so valuable that you are priceless; you can't be replaced because your value is immeasurable. "Set the bridal price as high as you will-the sky's the limit! Only give me this girl for my wife." (Genesis 34:11-12)
Her husband trusts her 100%. He has full confidence in her. He never has a reason to regret it. Proverbs 31:11a CaSandra Winter Version

Your husband should have NO reservations. He should have no marital worries. He should be confident in you and your decisions. While at work he doesn't have to wonder what sites you are visiting on your computer. He doesn't fret about purchases you will make that will hinder your financial budget. He doesn't feel like he needs to check-in on you while meeting a friend for lunch. He doesn't desire to check your text messages to see if you were gossiping about him, or anyone else for that matter, when he returns home. He should trust you... completely! “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, But only what is helpful for building others up, According to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen” (Ephesians 4:29)

With her, he has everything he needs.
Proverbs 31:11b CaSandra Winter Version

Your husband doesn't need to be searching to fill a void. He doesn't need to be hanging out drinking with his buddies every night. He doesn't need to be looking at sinful things on the computer to getting attention for a co-worker. It's your job! "Marriage should be honored by everyone, and husband and wife should keep their marriage pure." (Hebrews 13:4) Check out this video - it's amazing; a topic that's hard to discuss -
The Importance of Intimacy In Marriage. It's short and sweet and to the point! It might change the way you think about S-E-X.
His wife does good for him all the days of her life.Proverbs 31:12 CaSandra Winter Version

Notice it doesn't say on the weekends, in front of friends, or just when you feel like it? It says all the days - that's every day. Every. Single. Day. Even when you don't think that it is merited. This passage doesn't say that her husband deserved it, but the Proverbs 31 wife acted with mercy and grace. It is a deliberate choice that you must make. Jesus says in Matthew 5:7 “Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.”

Don't know where to start? Let me give you a few suggestions.

* Praise your husband. Look for the good in the things he does. Make a conscious effort to tell him that you appreciate him taking out the trash, putting his plate in the dishwasher, cutting the grass, washing your car, giving the kids a bath or letting you meet up with a friend for lunch.

* Communicate. Don't assume that your husband can read your mind. I'm here to tell ya' - he can't. Calmly say your piece and listen to what he says in return. Don't be thinking up your next response but rather focus on his opinion that he is sharing.

* Expectations. Let him know what your expectations are. Whether its weekend project, a shopping trip, dinner out or raising children, discuss what you were thinking. He can't fulfill your expectations if he doesn't even know what they are.

* Choices. Choose your words carefully. Once they are spoken they can't be taken back. If you say something out of haste in the heat of an argument, know that once said it - it will replay in his head for hours, weeks or years ahead.

* Pray. This one seems like a no-brainer, but pray about everything. Pray together. Pray for each other. Pray for the Holy Spirit to control your tongue and guide your responses instead of acting in the flesh.

* Forgive. God calls us to forgive, whether they deserve it or not. Jesus died to forgive YOU of your sins, but also the sins of your HUSBAND. He's not perfect either. Forgive him.
So won't you join me on this little 2 week adventure? I challenge you.
Who knows, it could save your marriage and change your life!

Proverbs 31:13-14

I encourage you to check this out; Proverbs 31 presented in a different way than I had ever heard, but the truth still shines through.

Go ahead. Watch it again! I will wait. I'm not going anywhere.
If I were a Youth Leader, I would make this a requirement to watch.

She works willingly with her hands and gladly makes fabrics using the best materials.
Proverbs 31:13 - CaSandra Winter Version

A Proverbs Woman eagerly shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing.
Our home is filled with fabrics: clothing, upholstery, curtains, table cloths, bed linens, towels, even our carpeting is made from yarn. Clearly, fabrics are a huge part of our decorations, using textures and colors to create a setting in which we feel comfortable. A Proverbs 31 Woman is a homemaker. She creates an inviting atmosphere of warmth and love for her family and guests. She uses hospitality to minister to those around her. "Aspire you to live quietly and to mind your own affairs and to do work with your hands, as we instructed you." (1 Thessalonians 4:11)

She is diligent in choosing healthy foods for her household.
Proverbs 31:14 - CaSandra Winter Version

Do you ever feel like you are in a food rut, go to the grocery store, buy the same things, and come home still feeling in the same rut? {I will Amen myself on that one} Preparing nutritious meals is challenging. Try adding in variety and some days it almost seems impossible for me. It's safe to say that we all know that eating healthy is the right thing to do and makes us feel better, but you now know the Bible instructs us to do so, are you going to take the challege? A Proverbs woman pays attention to all aspects of feeding her family. "But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that." 1 Timothy 6:8
She rises before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day. Proverbs 31:15 CaSandra Winter Version

This particular verse is the one that stirred my heart and inspired me to start this little mini-devotion series. Rob gets up early to go to work - 5:30 a.m. to be exact. I used to get up with him, make him breakfast, pack his lunch... and then along came Nolan... who didn't sleep through the night until he was 8 months old.

I would take my 2 hour increments of sleep whenever or wherever I could get it!

Sadly, the habit of rising eary slowly faded away out of sheer exhaustion.
Can anyone relate?

After reading this passage a few months back, I just couldn't shake it out of my mind. I never really thought that I had to get up early with my husband because it was biblical and I was instructed to. I'll be the first to admit that I LOVE waking up to a clean house, but I began to feel called to rise with my husband. Not only to spend some time with him, but to tackle some projects before the kids get up... which can be 6:30 a.m. Uggggh is right!

I want to draw your attention to the word rises. It means to arise, to stand, to be set, to fulfill, to establish, to endure, to stir up, to carry out. It is often used with a sense of rising in preparation or rising in power. It refers to rising up with a plan and a purpose. This is what we see the Excellent Woman doing.
A Virtuous Woman uses her time wisely. She works diligently to complete her daily tasks. She does not spend time dwelling on those things that do not please the Lord.

Tomorrow is Saturday. Will you sleep in or will you rise early, check your email, take a shower, prepare breakfast and plan your family's day?

The choice is yours! Do you want to be a Proverbs 31 Woman?

The godly womann considers a field in the open country.

Proverbs 31:16  CaSandra Winter Version.

She doesn't do buy the land on a splurge or an impulse, but she has given very careful thought to the decision.   She has a plan for her family and she carefully thinks about what they need.  This verse shows us that the Proverbs 31 Woman is capable and intelligent.  The fact that she buys a field indicates that she was involved in financial decisions.  The godly wife, under the headship of her husband, can play a significant role in managing family finances.  Planting a field to me means the money saved is put back into the family resources to be used wisely again.

1 comment:

Tina Faber said...

Girl, you are simply amazing! What a heart for God you have!