1.01.2012

... Searching... Searching... Searching...

I realize it's early in the season, but I'm already searching for a swim suit. 
I've bought one, that I remember, in the past 10 years. 
No, technically, there's nothing 'wrong' with it.
It was purchased pre-kids... it just doesn't fit the same.
 

If I could sew, I'd make my own.
I'd start with a halter top, long, center-rouched torso and add a ruffle on the bottom.

Pair grey up with yellow and my heart is happy!

I haven't found anything perfect so the search continues...
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While shopping online, I stumbled upon this article.
{Kind of made me think}
1. Love your swimwear, even if nobody else does. Locate a suit you actually like. If you’re a sleek Speedo tank kind of lady, I support your choice, but I want my suit to have a little embellishment. Some polka dots. Maybe a ruffle. You may have to shop online. You may have to make one yourself, or alter one you already own.


2. Ignore "rules" for what you're allowed to wear. Rules are arbitrary and ridiculous. You dig a retro swimdress? Wear it, even if your grandma has the same one. You want to strut around in a bikini? Do it, even if you have to make it yourself because it doesn't exist in your size. If you like colorblocking or loud floral prints, by all means wear them, and if you enjoy the extra support of that powermesh suck-you-in swimwear, then go for it. But don’t do either because you think they’re hiding your body, or that your body needs to be camouflaged or compressed.


3. Your body is fine.
Seriously. I don’t care what it looks like. Your body is fine, and if you see imperfections and so-called “problem areas” in it, know that you’re probably the only person focusing on them. It’s easy to zero in on the spots we don’t like. But the fact is that all bodies are different, and that’s normal.


4. They're (probably) not looking at you.
Well, some people will be looking at you. But they are probably just wondering where you got your bag, or thinking your swimsuit is adorable, or admiring your hair, or are curious as to what time it is (these are all real comments I’ve gotten from staring strangers on the beach). Nobody will be judging you as harshly as you may be judging yourself. And if someone IS judging you, either for your choice of swimwear or the size or shape of your body, then they’re being a jerk and trying to kill your good time, so their opinions can be casually dismissed.


5. Body-policing is never OK.
Don’t judge other people, not for their choice of swimwear or for the size or shape of their bodies. Not only does this make you kind of a jerk too, but it will also contribute to you feeling more self-conscious yourself. When we hold others to ridiculously high standards of appearance, it raises our own anxiety. If you’re made uncomfortable by the idea of someone making rude comments about your appearance, then don’t make them about anyone else.

1 comment:

Kanko's Wife said...

This made me laugh! I love you so much, plus you help keep me on my toes for future things I might need!